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INFIDELITY COUNSELING

"Privacy is really important to me, and although my marriage was suffering after some indiscretions, I never wanted to tell anyone.  A friend referred me to Mitchel, after dealing with a similar situation.  I cannot believe it took me so long.  I believe I can be happy again!  Thanks Mitchel!!

Infidelity, Broken Hearts, Broken Dreams

and Fixing Damaged Relationships

Fort Lauderdale Couples Therapy

Fort Lauderdale Relationship Counseling

Fort Lauderdale Marriage Counseling

“When I found out that my husband was cheating on me, I thought that our marriage was over, I thought I would not be strong enough in surviving infidelity from our marriage, or the feelings of spousal betrayal.  I have such a deep hearted gratitude and appreciation for the tools and support you have given to us. - Thank you Mitchel”

When first finding out that the person you love has “cheated” on you it can feel as though your whole world is collapsing in on you. You may question everything that you once believed and thought to be true about the person who cheated on you and even your relationship.

 

You may wonder:

 

  •  Has s/he ever loved me?

  •  Did s/he fall out of love with me?

  •  Was it something I did?

  •  Am I not good enough?

  •  Could I have done a better job in this relationship?

  •  Did I cause this to happen?

 

Then you may start wondering:

 

  •  Is the other person more attractive, smarter or sexier than me?

  •  Is my partner or spouse no longer attracted to me?

  •  Could I have done more to please him or her in the bedroom?

  •  What did I do wrong?

 

Once you have discovered spousal betrayal in your marriage or relationship has happened, you may begin to look back for any clues in your relationship you might have missed. You may even start questioning and think “my spouse is a sex addict” or “my spouse is addicted to porn, why did I not see the signs?” You may even be blaming yourself for this.

 

The shock of discovering the person you love has “cheated” on you is devastating and very confusing, and once discovered will put an even greater strain on an already fragile and damaged relationship or marriage.  Therapy or couples counseling for treating relational infidelity is always strongly recommended by most therapists and by other couples who have gone through the counseling process to fix and save their marriage and family. 

 

The following list are some of the feelings and emotions my clients have shared with me to explain the pain and confusion caused from the damage by their spouse's affairs:

 

  •     Loss of trust

  •     Feelings of rage

  •     Guilt and remorse

  •     Self-doubting

  •     Feelings of hate and anger all the time

  •     Unable to function at work

  •     Anger at God

  •     Blaming and shaming the partner

  •     Negative consequences for the children

  •     Weight gain or loss

  •     Negative body image

  •     Lack of sleep

  •     Depression and anxiety

  •     Feeling of worthlessness

  •     Thoughts of self harm

  •     Loss of productivity at work

  •     Damage to self esteem

  •     Snooping and interrogating

  •     Stalking

 

Relationships are challenging and require work to maintain the same respect, love and joy that most relationships naturally start off with. In the beginning there is little or no effort required to maintain the feelings of respect, love and joy. Later, feelings of being overwhelmed by life’s responsibilities and having to learn how to juggle family, money, careers and child rearing become a new reality. Often little, or perhaps improper thinking has gone into how to manage all of this and still maintain the respect, love and joy which you had started your relationship with.

 

Even though infidelity and spousal betrayal feel as though you may never be able to trust again and may seem like it is the end of your relationship, Fort Lauderdale Behavior Therapy provides every couple with a focused therapy treatment plan that takes place in a supportive and confidential counseling setting. 

 

Working together step-by-step, couples can begin to learn and use new tools, ideas, and communication styles to safely explore the core issues, set up new boundaries and establish a new foundation for starting over. You learn to work together in restoring the broken trust, mutual respect, love, and even your sex life may reach new heights.

We understand first hand that an affair hurts, but infidelity does not have to mean the end of a relationship or marriage. Counseling after spousal betrayal or therapy for betrayal and infidelity does work. Having an affair is often the signal that the relationship is in crisis and that it is time to take focused healing steps in order to learn a new way of being together. Start to build your relational foundation back with Fort Lauderdale Behavior Therapy’s expert and confidential treatment methods.

 

To schedule an appointment with me in my Fort Lauderdale office, or if you have any questions, I welcome your call at 954-951-3077 or via email at BehaviorAddictions@gmail.com