Love Addiction Evaluation Quiz
PUT A CHECK NEXT TO ANY STATEMENTS THAT DESCRIBE YOU IN THE PRESENT OR HAVE DESCRIBED YOU IN THE PAST.
___ 1. I am driven by one or more compulsions (relationships, sex, food, drugs, etc.).
___ 2. I think my self-esteem is low.
___ 3. I think that my happiness depends on having a loving relationship.
___ 4. I often fantasize to avoid reality or loneliness.
___ 5. I feel I need to be “good” enough to earn love from others.
___ 6. I will do almost anything for that desired loving relationship.
___ 7. I find it difficult to say “no” and set healthy boundaries, especially with men.
___ 8. I keep looking for a relationship to fill what is missing or lacking in my life.
___ 9. I find myself thinking that things will (or would) be better in this new relationship.
___ 10. I have always felt a distance and/or lack of love from my dad.
___ 11. I have a difficult time having an intimate relationship with God.
___ 12. I vacillate from over-control to out-of-control behavior in any of these areas: relationships,
sex, food, money, drugs.
___ 13. I crave and fear intimacy at the same time.
___ 14. I have used sex to get love.
___ 15. I have used sex and seduction to dominate a man and be in control.
___ 16. I take responsibility for people, tasks and situations for which I am not responsible.
___ 17. I find myself in relationships that echo my past abuse.
___ 18. I was sexually abused as a child or adolescent.
___ 19. I have stayed in romantic relationships after they became emotionally or physically abusive.
___ 20. I often find myself preoccupied with sexual thoughts or romantic daydreams.
___ 21. I do have trouble stopping my sexual behavior when I know it is inappropriate.
___ 22. I have hurt others emotionally because of my sexual/romantic behavior.
___ 23. I do feel bad at times about my sexual behavior.
___ 24. I have worried about people finding out about my sexual activities.
___ 25. I feel controlled by my sexual desire or fantasies of romance.
___ 26. I have been sexually or romantically involved with inappropriate people such as a boss,
a married person.
___ 27. When I have sex or am involved in sexual activity, I often feel depressed afterwards.
___ 28. I have become emotionally or sexually involved with people I don’t know.
_____ TOTAL NUMBER OF ITEMS CHECKED
If you scored over 6 checked items, we recommend seeking counseling.